Firstly how do you access the term marriage? Marriage life is very different from your single life, marriage is another world on its own, and that features only you and your partner for ever, couples have to start seeing their spouses as their physical conscience, they’re certain characters about you, that you have to drop when you get married, marriage is not a bed of roses every couple can testify to that, but in every circumstance the foundation usually determines the rage. The foundation you lay down from the beginning of your marriage when you got back from your honeymoon determines the success your marriage will achieve. Always remember that as you lay your bed so you will lie on it, marriage starts after the honeymoon is over and to some couples it starts that very night during the honeymoon, that’s when some couples will start asking themselves questions. Is this the man I fell in love with, is she the lady I married, the person I have been dating for all this years, here is one secret about life, you can never know the worse part of a person you are dating, except you get to live with them day after day, which you will not even fine out because they will always protect and hide that negative character that they know you might not like if you get to see it, all this characters are the things that you will be discovering, then you will start asking yourself what went wrong, where did you go wrong? That’s where couples have to remember the oath, for better for worse. You must understand that it is not your fault that he/she is the way they are, that’s the challenge marriage entails. You have seen the better side of life with that person that’s why you feel in love with him/her, now ask yourself this question, now put this two things together, if you were told to compare between the good times and the bad times you have had with that person which do you think is more than the other, for if people were to know other’s worse just like they are knowing their better side, marriage won’t be existing. God has seen from the beginning that it is good you make those pledges before going into that commitment, that the person is good today does not guarantee that he/she will be the same tomorrow, and likewise in finances. I mentioned before in my other article title: what to do with an infidelity partner, that marriage is a life contract, which even death can not separate. Anything that God does not approve is not able to last. Always remember that marriage was ordained by God almighty.

HOW TO LAY A GOOD FOUNDATION FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

These steps will help you after getting married, but read my article on things you must do before getting married, to be able to lay foundations before building the marriage.

Many couples will wait for as long as possible, hoping things will change, it is a problem that will not go until you do something, and the worse part is the longer it stays the worse it gets.

Couples who avoid saying every angry thought when discussing touchy topics are                   consistently the happiest, you can tell your partner about what they did that you didn’t like, in a peaceful way, create an atmosphere just for that, a perfect condition, the aim is to deliver what’s bothering you.

Some spouse sometimes escalates the conflict from the get-go by making a dramatic, or angry or upsetting remark in a confrontational tone.